My seven-year-old daughter came up to me the other day to
share her beautiful Lego creation. She
went on to explain it to me, “Mom I built a church. Here are all the people inside the church
praying and outside are the security guards.”
The comment made me smile, but also brought to mind a reality that I had
not even considered. My daughter saw the
security guards as a normal piece of the church. We fear for our children’s
future and what the world will become, but when you think about it, didn’t our
parents have that same sense of fear for us as we grew up, and likely their
parents before that?
When I was growing up, our biggest fear walking to school
was getting caught by the old man as we crossed through his yard. We rarely locked the house or car doors. At
the same time, drugs were becoming a little more common and we were being
taught to “Just Say No” and to recognize “Stranger Danger”. I understand that I grew up in a small town,
so this may not be typical for others in my generation, but the general idea is
that I felt safe while I am sure my mom was thinking, “What has this world come
to?”
I don’t allow my children to play in the front yard when I
am not home. My 12-year-old daughter is
only able to walk the six blocks home from school when she is with friends and
she must call me before she leaves. Even
then, I worry that she will not arrive safely.
As I sit and worry about all of this, my children remain unfazed.
I know that as children we are definitely care-free and when
we become parents, our children’s safety is at the forefront of our mind. Have you ever thought that maybe it is also
in the perspective? Our children don’t
know anything different than to keep the doors locked at all times, not to play
in the front yard without adult supervision and definitely not to walk across
town to a friend’s house. They see
security personnel at church, school, events and the malls as providing safety
and not as the possibility of a threat. I think we can all agree that times are
changing and seem very scary, but each generation grows up in the world as it is and has no reference point for
the way it used to be. When our kids grow up, they will likely
encounter the same fears we – and generations of parents before us – have.
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